131. #TipsForBoysInLove

45 THINGS A GIRL WANT, BUT WON'T ASK FOR:

1. Touch her waist.
2. Actually talk to her.
3. Share secrets with her.
4. Give her your jacket.
5. Kiss her slowly.
>>>Are you remembering this?

6. Hug her.
7. Hold her.
8. Laugh with her.
9. Invite her somewhere.
10. Hangout with her and your friends together.
>>>KEEP READING ..

11. Smile with her.
12. Take pictures with her.
13. Pull her onto your lap.
14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.
15. When her friends say “I love her more than you”, deny it. Fight back and hug her tight so she can’t get to her friends. It makes her feel loved.

>>>Are you thinking of someone?

16. Always hug her and say I love you whenever you see her.
17. Kiss her unexpectedly.
18. Hug her from behind around the waist.
19. Tell her she’s beautiful.
20. Tell her the way you feel about her.
>>>One last thing you need to do to show her you actually do mean it.

21. Open doors for her, walk her to her car - it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman.

22. Tell her she’s your everything - only if you mean it.
23. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her - if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT - so just hug her.
24. Make her feel loved.
25. Kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know!
>>>WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US

26. Don’t lie to her.
27. DON’T cheat on her.
28. Take her ANYWHERE she wants.
29. Text message or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at school, and how much you miss her.
30. Be there for her whenever she needs you, and even when she doesn’t need you, just be there so she’ll know that she can always count on you.
>>>ARE YOU STILL READING THIS? YOU BETTER, BECAUSE IT’S IMPORTANT.

31. Hold her close when she’s cold so she can hold you too.
32. When you are alone hold her close and kiss her.
33. Kiss her on the cheek; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).
34. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her lightly.
35. Don’t ever tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you’re mad. If she’s upset, comfort her.
>>>REMEMBER ALL THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER NEXT ..

36. When people diss her, stand up for her.
37. Look deep into her eyes and tell her you love her.
38. Lay down under the stars and put her head on your chest so she can listen to the steady beat of your heart, link your fingers together while you whisper to her as she rests her eyes and listens to you.
39. When walking next to each other grab her hand.
40. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible.
>>>MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED.

41. Call or text her at night to wish her sweet dreams.
42. Comfort her when she cries and wipe away her tears.
43. Take her for long walks at night.
44. Always remind her how much you love her.
45. Sit on top of her and tell her how much you love her and then bend down to her face and kiss her while you’re sitting on her.
>>>You’ll never know when she needs just a little more love .. ♥!

♥!

hehe, so, gurlz out there...are these really what you all want??? erm, as for me, I am not exactly sure myself...They are pretty confusing actually...haha...but there is no doubt that there are few things that should not be done without halal relationship...so, I guess, this would be practical after you get married lads! tell your husbands these, and you'll definitely get them...well, it still depends...

kalau tak dapat, pandai2 lah...jangan cari sy...hehe

as for boys, jgn terus wt bnd ni...bek confirmkn dulu..tak memasal kang ada mamat kene ketuk or tampar ngan perempuan tu...hahaha...

AdiOs!!!

130. #JomTidur

Assalamualaikum...

well, generally, semua orang suke tidur...betul tak??? haha, tak payah nak cover sangat lah...mestilah suka sebab dah penat kan..haha

tapi, macam buat benda lain juga, mesti ada adab dan pantang larangnya kan??? haha, standardlah tu...so, ade lah benda nak share nye..benda ni jumpa kat satu tempat ni, from member..haha...

5 LARANGAN DALAM TIDUR :

1. JANGAN TIDUR MEMAKAI JAM TANGAN
Jam boleh menghasilkan radioaktif, walaupun hanya sedikit, tapi kalau terlalu lama memakainya boleh mendatangkan bahaya.

2. JANGAN TIDUR MEMAKAI COLI (buat perempuan)
Para pengkaji di Amerika mengatakan bahawa memakai coli lebih 12 jam, boleh mengakibatkan kanser payudara.

3. JANGAN TIDUR MEMBAWA HANDPHONE
Gelombang Medan magnet yang dihasilkan oleh alat elektronik ini, boleh merosakkan sistem syaraf kita

4. JANGAN TIDUR KETIKA MASIH MEMAKAI MAKE-UP
Hal ini dapat menimbulkan masalah pada kulit, kerana kulit tidak dapat bernafas

5. JANGAN TIDUR DENGAN ISTERI ORANG (buat lelaki)
Ini kerana anda mungkin akan tidur selamanya , kehkehkeh

haha, pepandailah nak sort information ni ye...tapi, well, hehe macam dah biasa je buat semua tu, except for number 5 la of course...because I am not a guy...huhu...

AdioS!

129. Finding Resolution

assalamualaikum,

here is my facebook status recently :
"kadang2 di saat hati mula ragu, ada keyakinan datang menyelinap dalam diri...begitu juga ketika hati mula yakin, ada cubaan dan dugaan datang mencabar..."

acutally, I have been in this relationship with someone for only about 3 months...well, today, it is exactly 3 months but the real basis of our relationship is actually much longer than that..hehe...(feeling satisfied)

however, lately I have been disturbed by an issue that makes my heart become emotionally unstable...
and the only issue that would arise is about the hukum for being in relationship (of course)...there are so many ideas and arguments about it...I agree to the opinion that we should refer to more than one source, but this matter seems like there will be no definite resolution...just like the earth, it keeps going round and round without an end to the route...(and I am feeling frustrated already)

so, due to this error in the programming of my soul, I frequently doubted what is right and what is wrong...when I try to do things according to the arguments from side A, I will start to objectively agreeing to the arguments from side B...and vice versa...hence, this has affected my emotion and sometimes, (I think most of the time..he would think so too) I will be very uncomfortable that I started to treat him coldly...as cold as ever..colder than the ice at the earth pole... :'(

but still, whenever this problem is discussed, there are no real answers to solve the problem...new arguments will always come up and there will be new debate on it...so, when exactly will it end??? (hope someone can answer me)

so, at first, I always avoid from telling this problem to my bf...whenever he asked, I always give excuses and said there is nothing wrong...but I cannot deny it that I felt really bad to have him be treated very coldly...so, one day, I just figure out that I should and can share the problem with him...

so there start the explanation and confession of what really was going on and what was really wrong with me...and he was like lost in words and he just said that he loves me and we will try our best to make sure that this relationship is not taking the wrong path...huhu...so in the end we finally agreed to work hard together to take care this relationship well and always reminds each other...(I was so glad)

but then, a few days later, I found two things that freaked me out..one was a status at facebook and the other one is the tweet at twitter...here they are:

from facebook,

"According to research, those in arranged marriages – or who have had their partner chosen for them by a parent or matchmaker – tend to feel more in love as time grows, whereas those in regular marriages feel less in love over time.. "

(hidden identity)

from twitter,

"Don’t stay in a haram relationship with the intention of making it halal someday. Who promised you tomorrow? "

(hidden identity)

hence, because of these two I would say, quotes from someone, they really hits directly through my heart leaving a very huge hole on it...huhu...I am so sad and I shared what I found with my bf...so, he was at the same state with me and he was startled by it...he was speechless at the moment and suddenly he stop replying my message...

at first I thought that he was feeling bad or what, but suddenly his text message came in and as usual, he sent me words of comforts that allow me to agree and decide the resolution for the problem...here is a part of his message that I was really touched...

"...make it clear and put aside all the other unnecessary things...you remind me, I will remind you...what happen now, make it worth for the future...we pray to Allah, may Allah keep our hearts at the right path...and if we are going to be together, may we be blessed...but if not, may Allah separate us in a good way...if it turns out that He is testing us, be strong and remain, cause He knows whats best for both of us..."

sometimes, we can turn our destiny and fate the other way round...like playing monopoly, there will always be fate through out the whole round...and the fate itself is a probability that is still cannot be confirmed to be a certainty...what is certain is we will stop by at the fate box, but what fate card will we open up, nobody can tell...but the fate card that is fated for us, can always change depends on the arrangements of the cards when it is prepared...

so, be well and strong enough to view everything positively from every aspect of life...so that we will be satisfied and we will not be frustrated with our decision...

"there is no such thing as right decision...but we got to make the decision to be right...by doing the right things after choosing our decision..."

and 

"never afraid of feeling regret...cause there should be no regrets...if its good, then its awesome...it its bad, then its experience...learn from it well..."

that's all...gtg...someone's waiting for me...

Adios Amigos!!!

128. Jika Benar

Assalamualaikum,

hanya kau satu

Jika Benar Hatiku Mencintaimu kerana Allah

Wahai diri...
Jika memang kau mencintainya kerana Allah
Cintailah dia dengan cara yang benar
Cintailah dia pada saat yang tepat

Ya Rabb..
Berikanlah aku kekuatan dan peringatan agar

Aku tak akan memaksakan diri hanya untuk sebuah perasaan

Ya Rabb..
Jika dia memang jiwa yang telah Kau pilihkan untukku, berikanlah kami jalan dan petunjuk
Jika dia memang takdir bagi ku, layakkanlah dia untuku dan layakkanlah diriku untuknya

Ya Rabb..
Aku memilihnya kerana sebuah keyakinan...
Aku terima seluruh kelebihan dan kekurangannya...
Aku terima seluruh luka dan bahagia yang menyertai hidupnya...
Aku terima dirinya dengan seluruh apa yang telah Engkau berikan untuknya...

Ya Rabb..
Jika ada dua pilihan dan diantaranya adalah dia, tentu aku akan memilihnya
Jika ada sepuluh pilhan dan diantaranya adalah dia, tentu aku akan memilihnya
Jika ada seratus pilihan dan diantaranya adalah dia, tentu aku akan memilihnya

Dan jika hanya ada satu pilihan, dan tidak ada dia dalam pilihan itu…
Maka aku pun akan menerimanya sebagai pemberian terbaik dari Mu…
Aku tidak akan memaksakan diriku untuk memilihnya...

Kerana Engkaulah yang Maha Mengetahui
Kerana Engkaulah yang Menciptakanku
Kerana Engkaulah yang Memelihara diriku

Ya Rabb…
Jika dengan menutup cinta ini yang menjadikan-Mu redha kepadaku..
Jika dengan mengorbankan perasaan ini Engkau menyelamatkanku..
Di saat manusia tergelincir dari jalan-Mu..
Maka aku serahkan cinta ini untuk Mu..
Sebagai wujud bakti ku pada Mu..
Sebagai wujud syukurku pada Mu..

Allahumma Ya Muqollibal Qulub, Tsabbit Qolbi ‘ala Diinik, Wa'ala Ta'atiik..

Aku yakin bahawa tidak ada Ketetapan-Mu yang salah
Aku yakin bahawa semua Kehendak-Mu sangat terukur
Buatlah aku mencintai pilihan yang Kau berikan
Buatlah aku setia pada pilihan yang Kau tetapkan
Buatlah aku menyayangi pada pilihan yang Kau amanahkan

Ya Rabb..
Dengan segala Kekuasaan-Mu..
Dengan segala Kekuatan-Mu..
Dengan segala Keagungan-Mu..

Hamba mohon pada Mu,
Kuatkanlah hati ini saat ketetapan Mu membuat hati ini terasa sempit..
Tenangkanlah hati ini saat ketetapan Mu membuat hati ini terasa berat..
Sesungguhnya hanya dengan Pertolongan-Mu,
diri ini mampu menjalani semua ketentuan-Mu.

Ya Rabb ..
Buatlah diriku mencintai Mu lebih dari segala makhluk yang telah Engkau ciptakan

Ya Rabb
Buatlah diriku mencintai Rasulullah,  

Kerana Engkau pun mencintainya(Rasulullah)

Inilah isi hatiku, inilah harapanku, inilah keyakinanku…

Aku tidak hanya mencintaimu..
Tapi aku ingin mencintaimu kerana Allah..
Aku ingin mencintaimu dengan cara yang benar..
Aku ingin Allah redha dengan cinta ini..

Tak usah khawatir jika engkau adalah Qudrah dan Iradah-Nya
Kerana semuanya pasti akan terjadi,
Hanya waktu yang akan menjadi saksi kekuasaan-Nya
Tak usah memaksakan jika kau memang bukan untuk diriku
Kerana pasti aku bukan yang terbaik untukmu

Sehebat apapun cinta ini…
Tidak akan pernah mampu menyelamatkan kita,
Saat matahari hanya satu hasta di atas ubun-ubun kita..

Karena yang terbaik adalah…
Kita menjaga perasaan dan keyakinan ini dengan sebersih-bersih ketauhidan
Kita diwafatkan bersama hamba-hamba yang berbakti
Hamba-hamba yang mengorbankan sesuatu yang paling dicintainya untuk Tuhannya

Semoga Allah mempertemukan kita kembali disatu tempat
Dimana para abid melihat Rabb-nya dengan penuh keredhaan dan kebahagiaan

Kulakukan semua ini, karena aku mencintaimu karena Allah swt..hanya Dia

Aamiin..

Diadaptasi dari karya,

Arif Ashadi 

p/s : kepada dirimu yang kusayangi di luar sana, semoga hatimu juga mengharap pada ketulusan sebuah keyakinan yang sama seperti hatiku...semoga kau juga mencintaiku kerana Allah...kerana hanya dengan begitu, ikatan hati kita terpelihara daripada godaan yang melemahkan Iman...